Hey guys,
Today I wanted to talk about marriage because I recently had a family friend who said that we were created by God to be married, that that was our sole purpose on earth and I just, I just refuse to believe that. I think that marriage is great, but it's not something to be rushed into and it's not something that you do if you're unsure, I mean it can be and you can make a choice to love someone else, but most people don't think like that. They think marriage is a kind of love that just transcends everything and that IS true, but it's a choice to remain committed to someone even after their mistakes, even after they do something you hate. Marriage is love and love is a choice to remain together DESPITE what the other person does and sometimes you leave out of love and I still think that's love because you're choosing to make the hard decision to leave a situation that you think will help them. Marriage is hard and it gets a little easier with time, but marriage is choosing to love someone regardless of all their faults, regardless of all their insecurities.
Some people get married and don't like what they see afterwards and that sucks because you chose to love this person, but maybe they didn't choose to love you. And if you try to change them for YOU, then what happens when you're gone? People need to change for themselves after they see that what they're doing is hurting you and sometimes love means staying there through that bad time when your spouse is doing something that you hate - I do NOT mean abuse here, if you are in an abusive relationship, there are resources to get help and I would highly suggest calling 911 if you do not think you can divorce freely or feel unsafe because that is not love and staying out of a duty to love should never happen. I mean an alcohol addiction (That doesn't get physical), I mean a drug addiction, I mean a porn addiction. Love isn't about the good days, but I can't say that it's only about the bad days either. Love is about those walks together talking, it's about the "I made this cup of coffee because I know you've been struggling lately," it's about the small trinket that you picked up at the store because it reminded you of them. Marriage doesn't work unless you listen and talk and communicate and trust and make a CHOICE to be committed to your partner. Marriage is hard and we should teach that it's hard and a commitment, it's a promise.
- Alex Risdall :)
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